Fathers are not second mothers. One parent have to be the stoic rock that children's emotional waves crash into. Someone has to teach those kids especially boys that the world is is...
That the world is what? We create the world.
Fathers should be themselves, they should be people. Evolve and learn. They should be curious about themselves, their children and their partners. Strength and resilience are not reserved for men, and frankly, it is crazy to expect a living person to be stoic all the time.
Many men have a tendency to follow this illusion, to lie to themselves and make everyone unhappy because they want to maintain this false self-image. They pretend to be someone they're not, that they don't feel what they feel. So then, they need to project their unexpressed emotions and needs onto everyone around them.
The deal is to feel everything and admit to feeling everything. At the same time to become sustainable, stable adults, we learn to process all this reality and meet our needs in a healthy way by solving problems and searching for deeper, better, more personal qualities in life.
Ojcowie mają uczyć, że świat jest czym? To my tworzymy świat.
Ojcowie powinni być sobą, powinni być ludźmi. Ewoluować i uczyć się. Powinni być ciekawi siebie, swoich dzieci i swoich partnerek. Siła i odporność nie są zarezerwowane dla mężczyzn i szczerze mówiąc, szaleństwem jest oczekiwanie, że żywa osoba będzie cały czas stoicka.
Wielu mężczyzn ma tendencję do podążania za tą iluzją, okłamywania siebie i unieszczęśliwiania wszystkich, ponieważ chcą utrzymać ten fałszywy obraz siebie. Udają, że są kimś, kim nie są, że nie czują tego, co czują. Muszą więc rzutować swoje niewyrażone emocje i potrzeby na wszystkich wokół siebie.
Chodzi jednak o to, by czuć wszystko i przyznać się do tego. Jednocześnie, aby stać się zrównoważonymi, stabilnymi dorosłymi, uczymy się przetwarzać całą tę rzeczywistość i zaspokajać nasze potrzeby w zdrowy sposób, rozwiązując problemy i poszukując głębszych, lepszych, bardziej osobistych wartości w życiu.
Ram Dass: The Universe of Compassion – Here and Now Podcast Ep. 231
Hi everyone
I would like to touch on the topic of compassion from the perspective of a person for whom loving the world and people was something completely natural.
Most of the spiritual gurus talks about awakening to compassion, discovering the web of interconnectedness and how powerful an influence we have on each other. And I have to say that to me this is definitely nothing new, I've known and felt it since I was very little, and the training of giving attention, space and understanding while I was doing nothing else for most of my years, raises my anger.
I think completely different teachings could bring me closer to wholeness. Women's experiences in the world shows that our path to freedom should rather be led by recognizing our separateness and respecting boundaries.
Ram Dass's teachings, while incredibly noteworthy and wonderful, are still the words of a privileged man, a man with a PhD from a prestigious university, with extraordinary opportunities for advancement and widely respected. They have no chance to take into account the burden, tiredness and and futility of the efforts of people affected by inequality.
I would like to see and hear about such path from the mouth of an experienced, conscious and empowered woman or an experienced man if he gets the major perspective or came out of adversity with an open heart.
And no more love and compassion. It is not always the truth and liberation. It deviates from experience of humanity that majority of us have and I wanted to express that here.
So you're all alone
And no one loves you
The hour has come
Of looking the devil in the eye
Feel the pain as it comes
Burn in the fire of doubt
They are long gone
Now you can see as it trully is
And be
be
be
Like you always were
Pain comes and goes
I am always there
